Hate is a strong word

[.·´¯`·->Pi$tol<-·´¯`·.]

But I really really really don't like that guy.
My friend. Is who I'm talking about.
Its funny that I still call him my friend.
I don't know why I do. But he lies all the time,
flurts with other girls when he HAS A GIRLFRIEND.
And thats what drives me the most crazy, even if
I don't know the girl. I feel sorry for her. Cause
sometimes he does more than flirting.
He even tries to get my girlfriend to date him.
But he has a freaken girlfriend. Ahh...
He acts gay. And I have no problem with gay people.
In fact, I wish he was gay, so he would leave
my girlfriend alone. Haha. I know she won't leave me,
but it just makes me mad. MAINLY because he promised me
that he wouldn't do that. He is heartless. He only
thinks about himself. And he cuses his mom out.
... He needs to be shot... And the real funny thing about
this is. I'm a person of love. And I always complain about
how people hate to much these days.

I dunno... Maybe he will get sick or something. Haha...
I'm a bad person... ;D

[.·´¯`·->Pi$tol<-·´¯`·.]

Oh. I just found out he cheated on his girlfriend... Ahh...

[Man in Black]

Take a deep breath Pistol.

There is nothing wrong with you being a bigger person and returning your "friend's" dirty deeds with kindness. Killing with kindness they say. It may seem weak to some, but there is no greater strength than to love, especially your enemies.

[Drago]

Tough as it may be to follow the advice, MIB hit the nail on the head. Loving your enemies doesn't mean that you have to maintain an active role in their life though. In fact, if your "friend" is truly the cad that you've described, you may find it in your best interest to distance yourself from him.
There tends to be drama and trouble that follows those, who choose to lie to and toy with others. My guess is that you'd rather not be involved in that.

Another option is to confront him on these issues and see if that does any good. Maybe talking to him about them will make a difference. Sometimes you have to draw a persons attention to their own behavior before they even realize that they're doing something wrong.

In the end it all depends on how much you value his friendship....or not. If you feel that he's worth the effort, then by ALL means, make the effort. If however, you'd rather distance yourself from him, you could hardly be faulted for trying to stay clear of the potential problems.

I don't mean to sound crass, but life is short and fleeting. Find good people to spend the time with.

[Man in Black]

dragonlord said:

I don't mean to sound crass, but life is short and fleeting. Find good people to spend the time with.

Perfect!

More great points added Drago. Sure if you think this person is worthy of helping then do what you can within reason. But, I have found the hard way in life that you cannot help someone who is not willing to help themselves. So like Drago said, surround yourself with good people. The more of those good people you have in your corner, the easier it becomes to meet and deal with conflicts like helping out friends who may have gone astray.

Another thing I'd like to add here is something that I've just recently got a good grasp on... is trying to see why the people are acting badly. Since I've started doing this I've come to realize that most of the time instead of being mad at the person I actually feel sorry for them. In almost every instance something has happened to the person at another time away from me that has acted as a catalyst for their negativity toward me. Now, don't get me wrong here, there is not always something you can do about the problem, but the important thing is that this sort of view helps heal and stiffle your own anger and resentment towards the person. Especially if you ask yourself honestly... "How would I be acting under similar circumstances?"

[.·´¯`·->Pi$tol<-·´¯`·.]

Well the main thing that bothers me is I try to leave him alone, but he always finds some way to make me come back, and then get really angry with him.

For example. Me and my girlfriend broke up. And then as soon as that happened. He was trying to date her. And I still liked her. The only reason we broke up was because we argued a lot. And I sat him down and said,"Look... I still like her. And I'm your friend. You don't just date your friends Ex." And he didn't care. Then my other friend started yelling at him for it. And she said,"If he started dating one of your ex's how would you feel?" And he said,"Mad. But what does that have to do with anything?"

Heartless...

And now me and my girlfriend are back together, and everything between me and her is fine. We don't really argue anymore. Except once a month maybe. And he came up to me, without me even asking, and said,"Cole... Your right. I should leave her a lone. That was a bad thing to do, and I promise you I will leave her alone." And so then we were friends again. Well... Now... After me and Chas have been dating for a good while, he decided to tell her,"I still like you." And she isn't going to leave me for him or something. I know that. But it still just makes me mad...

Anyway... Yea. I know I need to try to be nice to him. I have been finding that harder and harder, because when I try to seperate myself from him, my friends invite him to something that they invited me to. And I didn't know he would be there.

But thank you. Both of you. I will try to work it all out.